Tuesday, September 14, 2010


Now I know there are many other blogs just like this one, another BT who fell out of love with his new found religion and now is struggling to pick up the pieces. Although this blog isn't very innovative I hope it will help me sort out my issues with Yiddishkeit as well as help others who may be struggling with the same problems. It could also help all sorts of other people as well.

A little about myself. I came from a conservative Jewish background, became introduced to frumkeit early on in college and initially began wearing a yarmulke and tzitzis pretty soon after. In just over a year I was also Shomer Shabbos/Negia (well with one exception, my non Jewish gf, oy!) and Kashrus. I never got into being consistent with davening even after I had been frum for a while since it never really interested me. After college I dedicated myself to the Lubavitch way of life and outlook. My non Jewish gf ultimately converted and we got married. We have a baby son, and I love my wife and son with all of my heart.

Over time I began trying to defend Chabad Judaism online as a sort of kiruv effort, although Chabad doesn't like to call it that. Ultimately in trying to defend my views I began to actually think critically about my faith for the first time. I did this because in order to bring atheist Jews back to Judaism I had to first think like them and then dig up or develop proofs that would convince people with that mindset to do Teshuvah. Over time I realized that there was no rational proof or evidence that would convince atheist Jews to return. I also came across rational arguments that totally tore apart Jewish "rationalizations" that dismissed evolution and the age of the universe. I began to realize that the Rabbis promoting these views were either totally ignorant or actively misleading about the positions and findings of the scientific community. I began to come across evidence that suggests that TMS never happened. And so on. As I began learning and reading I have come to dismantle my former worldview.

Now I am in a sort of limbo. Living as an Orthodox Jew, yet seriously doubting the basis of our faith and practices. I still enjoy some of Jewish practice like Shabbos but I have lost a passion for much of it also, like Torah learning. I also haven't "come out" to my wife yet, but I am sure with time I will. I am eager to learn about secular studies that I have missed out on. I am still find myself doubting my new found skepticism. I have been thinking a lot about my life and its direction.

I hope others will be willing to share their thoughts and experiences here and we can have stimulating conversations throughout my time on the web.


  1. welcome to the blogging world. obviously you are going through what so many others are going through and that is to make sense of our existence. it means alot too, as your beliefs will effect how you want to live your life. keep on sharing your ideas-they are very thoughtful and informative

  2. Love the new blog. I'm curious what your "old" online name was, and whether I'd recognize it.

  3. Hey Skeptitcher, we seem to be in a similar position (see my blog on http://undercoverkofer.blogspot.com). Got Facebook to stay in contact?

  4. OTD - I will send you an e-mail about that.

    UK - I will also send you an e-mail about that and I'll be sure to check out your blog too.

    Thanks for visiting.

  5. UK - Just realized I don't have an e-mail for you and don't know how to send private messages over blogger.com

    My e-mail is skeptitcherrebbe@gmail.com if you want me to send you anything like FB info, I would like to do it privately. Thanks

  6. Hi there! I'm not exactly an ex-BT, but I've got two Orthodox daughters. One of them is on the road to going Off The Derech.

    I have a blog that might interest you, www.TheAtheistRabbi.com. It's written from my perspective as a Secular Humanistic Rabbi. Good luck to you!

  7. Thanks Rabbi, I hope you enjoy the blog!

  8. Good luck. I've enjoyed your posts thus far.

    My experience was in some respects similar to yours. I've now self-identified as an atheist for almost two years. It's been interesting because many of the people around me are religious or spiritual or whatever. In many ways, my relationships have strengthened.

    My "why I became an atheist" experiences:

    (1) http://larrytanner.blogspot.com/2009/12/how-i-became-atheist.html

    (2) http://larrytanner.blogspot.com/2010/06/why-i-became-atheist.html

  9. Hi Skeptitcher Rebbe:

    I am a sort of BT - enjoying your blog. I spend time with Chabad. I like the Chabad / Lubavitch distinction you draw. Never thought of it that way, but it is a good insight (your wife's I guess).

    Anyway: stories of the Rebbe. What are your thoughts? There just seem to be some very amazing ones.

    There is one on the Chabad site that kind of blew my mind, because I know the family somewhat. It is the one of Diane Abrams who naturally conceived a child at the age of 50 after visiting the Rebbe who knew (somehow) that she wanted another child.

    How do you feel about Rebbe stories? I can never help but be respectful of him.